Tell Me What Ya Want, What Ya Really, Really Want

So, have you been wondering which lucky lady won my blog giveaway?

I bet you've been on the edge of your seats!!

drum roll PLEASE!!!!

Tamara of The Amateur Nutritionist

You are the lucky, lucky lady :)

Email me dollgirl86@aol.com & let me know what you want from esty.

Anything you want!!!!

Anything at all $25 and under. :)

I'm excited, i like giving presents.

Pick something out & i'll order it for you right away!

Hi Rob!!!!!

So, I really like these earrings.

I like them a whole bunch.

I like em a few whole bunchs.

They are only $25.

Halloween is coming up, I think they would be a very lovely halloween present.

P.S i Like the white and gold ones, the puple is cute too but the white ones will go with more.

See how practical and responsible i'm being?

so um if you are bored and thinking about what to do with $25,

you can get them here.

No pressure.

I heart this

Found this at Poppy Place on ..... come on where else?

ETSY.

I really like it.

It would probably look really cute framed in a bathroom.

(hint hint Rob) ;)

You're Looking Fabulous Today!

Lately, I've been thinking about how there are so many different types of pretty.
If you look, you can find something beautiful in everyone.
I'm a big people watcher, it is one of my favorite things to do.
I also LOVE to compliment, i never feel stupid approaching a stranger and telling them i like their dress/ they have gorgeous hair or i just LOVE those shoes!
I was at Yankee stadium a few weeks ago and the girl in front of me was wearing a gorgeous lacy dress. Might sound fancy but it was casual enough for daytime.
I didn't think twice before asking where she bought it and telling her she looked great in it.
She smiled, I'm sure it made her day (or at least her hour).
I smiled, because i love seeing the joy that even a little, if superficial, compliment can give.

Men prefer brief praise, pitched high; women are satisfied with praise in a lower key, just so it goes on and on. ~Mignon McLaughlin, The Neurotic's Notebook

I'm going to make it my goal to give at least 3 genuine compliments a day.

Who's with me? ;)

you don't need a thing

Lately I have been deleting certain emails as soon as they arrive in my inbox.
I don't even open them.
I don't want to do this, but i must.
It is for my own good.

Gilt.... DELETE

Banana Republic.... Delete

Urban Outfitters... delete

Anthropologie.......... delete while closing my eyes and using the utmost self control!

Zappo's deleeeeeete (i have plenty of shoes)

The list goes on.

Maybe i should unsubscribe from them, then i won't even be tempted to take a peek.

Buuuuut, what if i miss a REALLY good sale?

I've decided that it's not a real good sale if it's an item that i don't need.

And let's face it....... i don't need a thing.

hey there lovely lady

Hi!
So ummmmmm.
I'm doing a GIVEAWAY!
Have you noticed?
I've only tweeted and facebooked (facebooked?) about it a few hundred times ;)
Don't you wanna choose your own little etsy treat??!?
You've got till Friday at midnight to comment & take part.
Come on, make me smile, i LOVE giving presents.

CLICKEEEE !!

Can you REALLY see?

“The real voyage of discovery consists not in seeking new lands but seeing with new eyes.”

- Marcel Proust

Quote via thinksimplenow

Sometime's i think its really great to reevalute your beliefs, ideas & goals.

You can't want the same exact things forever as you age.

you age & grow and should defintely make it a habit

Have you "checked in" with yourself lately?

breath, do, be

I am a girl who struggled w/ social anxiety and depression all throughout high school. & even into her early 20's. I am the girl who desperately tried to hide her anxiety,so others wouldn't think she was weird or weak.This is the girl who used to only feel comforabe when she was with her oldest and dearest friends, because she could be her REAL self with them (she still wanted to please them though). This is the girl that sometimes felt so incredibly down that she could not pull herself out of bed.But the next day she would wear a nice outfit and spend extra time on her makeup, that day she was "happy". I am the girl who needed to look and feel beautiful everyday, she needed a few compliments each day to get by, to feel validated. On days when she didn't look "beautiful" (or didn't feel beautiful) she was quiet and withdrawn, feeling she wasn't worthy of being liked that day, A girl who used to base so much of her "self" on her appearance. A girl who still struggles with this everyday, She feels happier when she looks "pretty"'(or feels pretty) this feeling is common, Whats less common, is the disgusting obsession she used to have with feeling "beautiful" This is the girl who used to hide all of her "imperfections" because she sometimes felt that she wasn't good enough to be liked for who SHE IS and NOT who she APPEARED to be. This is also the girl who stayed w/ her high school boyfriend for way to long.She did this even though his insecurities led him to be rude to some of her girlfriends, or at least the one's he felt he was competing with. What if she loved her best girlfriend more? This is the girl who felt sick to her stomach each morning at school because she didn't know how to deal with this. This is the girl who purposely "overslept" many many mornings so she wouldn't have to deal with these problems, She is the girl who stayed with him so long because she didn't know who she was without him. She used to blame him for how she felt. She finally realizes it was NOT HIS FAULT, she let him make her feel this way.She believes he was (and surely still is) a good, kind, and loving person. To this day she (even though it's been ten YEARS )regrets how she ended things; she regrets how much she must have hurt him, He had is own reasons for feeling and acting the way he did, we all do.This is the girl who's weight has gone drastically up and down over the last 8 years,ranging from 97 to 130lbs.(It is so hard to
admit she once weighed 130 lbs.) This happened because she would try to cover up her
feelings with food. This is the girl who just 7 months ago weighed 110lbs (now she is 97).
She was disgusted with herself, she couldn't fathom how her boyfriend could still love her
while she was "fat".Side note: 110 lbs is a perfectly healthy weight for her height. She was
confused about why her boyfriend treated her with the same love and respect he treated her
with when she was "skinny".She thinks this past year tested their relationship; it passed
with flying colors.This is the girl who is OVERWHELMED with joy that she found this loving
man and will have the pleasure of spending her enitire life with him.This is the girl who is
finally refusing to let her irrational fears hold her back any longer. She is willing to
pursue her dreams despite her fear of failure.

I am the girl who let out a huge sigh of relief when she finished writing this post.
I am the girl who hope's that this post will in some tiny way help someone else to escape
her ridiculous fears.
This is the girl who is greatful to "@madwomanmeg" for posting a link to this article on
twitter.

She is greatful; it is the only way to be.

She is grateful to have found this blog, Single Dad Laughing.She is greatful that he spent 12 hours on his post.He inspired her to spend almost 3 hours on her response.I am a girl who feels like a very heavy weight has been lifted off her chest.
She has decided she hates the idea of Pefection.
Perfection sucks.
Excuse my language but, FUCK PERFECTION!


She is grateful that you are reading this.

What would you do, if you knew you could not fail?
- Robert H. Schuller

I think i can, i think i can.

It is not the mountain we conquer but ourselves.

- Edmund Hillary

quote via

http://blog.dreamthisday.com/

This quote really got me thinking.

I've always been ambitious, but I've been scared of failure as well.

Fear has stopped me from doing and enjoying WAY to many things in my life.

I see all my friends and peers being more successful than I am.

I wonder why it's taken me so long to realize that i can do it too.

In December, I'll finally earn my Bachelors degree in Psychology.

I'm so excited and proud of myself.

It's taken me a bit longer than others, but i realize that IT'S OK.

There is no contest, we all go at our own pace.

I was telling Rob all of my fears a few nights ago. I told him how i am scared that i might not be smart enough to accomplish my goals, that my mood disorder will somehow hinder me in my dream of becoming a therapist.

But ya know what?

Maybe it will HELP.

I am understanding and empathetic.

I am optimistic and hopeful.

I truly care about others, i have my whole life, even to the point of making myself sick, upset or angry when a close friend is hurting in some way or not being treated the way they deserve to be.

Every therapist or psychiatrist I've ever seen has told me they thought i would make a good therapist.

I finally believe them.

I think i can do it.

I know i can do it.

After we get all settled in California i am going to apply to a few schools and get my MS in Psychology.

I know masters degree programs can be competitive.

I am a good student but i don't always push myself to my true potential.

I have A's in many classes but also a few B's.

That might not be good enough for some schools, but I'll keep trying.

If i have to, I'll take extra classes, I'll get A's in them. I can do it, i just have to put the effort in.

Thank you for listening. ;) I really appreciate any time you take from your day to read about little old me.

Kooky, silly, crazy cat lady, fashion obsessed, book loving

little old me.

love,

fina

Does Everybody Know What Time It Is?

No, it's not tool time.


It's GIVEAWAY time. Woot Woot!


I promised a giveaway upon reaching 50 followers; you have no idea how excited i get about a new follower, Rob gets a text update every time a new lovely lady is sweet enough to read my little blog! (i can't help it, i want people to like me! hehe)


To show how much i appreciate the few moments you spend each day reading about lilmissfina's life, here is my present to you :

Any single thing you want from any etsy shop!! ($25 & under please!)

I figured letting you choose your own gift is much more fun than getting whatever random item i choose. This way if you win, you can get that lil item you've had your eye on but haven't treated yourself too, I'll treat ya. Ya know i love to be nice ;).

Okie dokie so here's the deal yo (hehe)

- Follow my bloggie. Leave a comment letting me know your following, i promise i'll jump up and down with joy for each and every new follower i get ;).

- Follow me on twitter, @lilmissfina. Leave a comment letting me know, another little hop for joy from me.

- Blog about this giveaway & leave a comment w/ the link. This will get you 5 entries. I know it's annoying, but you'll have to leave 5 separate comments for this one. Perhaps you can write something silly & make me laugh with each one?

This giveaway is open until midnight (EST) of September 30th.

What are you waiting for?

GET ON IT! :)

enjoy the good, learn from the bad

The soul would have no rainbow, Had the eyes no tears.

- John Vance Cheney

tilt 9/16/10

Today's Thursday Lovies

Honey Bunches of Oats w/ almonds, I'm currently on my second bowl ;)

Realizing how much "vanity sizing" is going on. Seriously, I measured my waist yesterday, it is 26 inches yet half of the jeans I own are size 24's. (I also own 26's and 27's, they all fit EXACTLY the same way)Do they think they need to lie to me to get me to buy the jeans? I think this just make girls obsess more about getting down to the tiniest size. (Which in most cases is unattainable & super unhealthy!)

My cats. Oh my, I'm going to miss them SO much. I told my mom the other day that it will be harder to leave the cats than it will be to leave my family & friends. Before you start thinking I'm completely nuts, wait for my reason.......I can talk to my family on the phone all the time and still feel connected, I can't exactly have phone convo's w/ my kitty siblings. Perhaps we can skype?

Thinking about new, fun ways to wear last years fall clothes (& the few items I may or may not have purchased recently). My shopping addiction is ending RIGHT HERE, RIGHT NOW. (at least for a little while) I promised Rob last night. I have to realize it's not just about me anymore. I have to think about us; we have a HUGE move coming up. I need to start being a tad bit more responsible (& perhaps less selfish) & saving. Ya know, so maybe i can contribute more than my cuteness to our new apartment. ;)

I can't wait to get the sweater and belt I ordered from Anthro yesterday. I'll post pics when they arrive. :)
(They were on sale, it was my last hurrah, sue me.)






What do YOU love today?

Chloe

Have you seen this movie?

I watched it about two months ago with my good friend & neighbor, Jenn.

Um...

I liked it.

It was weird.

There was alot of sex going on for an afternoon movie with a girlfriend!

I love Amanda Seyfried in Big Love, it's one of my favorite shows.

I was a tad bit shocked at her performance in this film.

If you've seen it, what did you think?

Get Up, Stand Up

Laziness may appear attractive, but work gives satisfaction.

- Anne Frank

I need to tell myself this quite often.

I can be SUCH a lazy bones.

Getting stuff done always makes me feel good.

Even if it's just crossing little things off my to do list.

Give Happy

If I choose to bless another person, I will always end up feeling more blessed.

-Marianne Williamson

I've always thought that giving "happies" is the best way to get "happies".

Give: a random phone call to a girlfriend you haven't spoke to in a while

Get: get caught up and feel more connected to her

Give: a smile

Get: a smile (usually hehe)

Give: LOVE

Get: LOVE

Give: your best

Get: your best

Give: a penny

Take: a penny

( lol)

Give: help when it's needed

Get: help when you need it

Give: the benefit of the doubt

Get: the benefit of optimism

Give: the truth

Get: self respect

Give: elbow grease

Get: rewarded

What can YOU give to get a happy?

skidaddle

winning is everything

I got a wonderful little surprise in the mail yesterday...

This precious swan necklace was sent to me by Judith from A Box For My Treasure.

I was all giggly and excited when I saw that the package had arrived (all the waaaay from Ireland!). :) :)

I won it at a giveaway on From Skirts to Skillets.

Have you checked out Judith's shop?

She has some really gorgeous and unique jewelry.

Thank you so VERY, VERY much Judith & Lynzy!

tilt 9/9/10

This weeks TILT was inspired by Becca & her little joys list.

i love

love
reading
writing
Rob
cats
reading
cuddling
happies
fashion
pretties
reading
cats (hehe)
kisses
bestest friends
my BESTEST BOY!
snuggling
haircuts
little surprises
love
getting packages in the mail
for that matter ANY mail in the mail that's not a bill
my squirrell
pictures
comments ;)
girl crushes on fellow bloggers
feeling inspired to try/do new things
feeling confident
knowing the world is what i make it (and how i see it is NOT always how it really is)
knowing i can choose to see things positively
optimism
cheese danishes
yogurt parfaits
being at my happy weight despite eating cheese danishs & other indulgent yummies
the cool breeze that's fighting it's way in
making lists
crossing things off said list
MY BOY
highlighting stuff in my day planner
folding laundry (especially if it's washed with GAIN)
magazines
thinking about future adventures
pausing to admire little things i might miss
driving home from work w/ the windows down
planning
hoping
wishing
dreaming
feeling
being (me)

Cats are an Excellent Source of Happiness

The Benefits of Bonding
By CatAge Staff

Quality time with your cat is good for both pet and human alike.

Research shows that petting a cat evens out human brain waves associated with depression and increases human brain waves associated with anxiety relief and positive feelings. After a mere 5 minutes of affection, your cat will experience lower blood pressure and positive neurochemical changes, as well.

I completely agree w/ the folks @ cat age.

How could the sight of my little squirrel, soaking up the sun, not make you feel happy?

Feeling blue? Go pet a kitty :) haha

happiness exists wherever you wish to find it

Money has never made man happy, nor will it, there is nothing in its nature to produce happiness. The more of it one has the more one wants.

- Benjamin Franklin

Sometimes, I feel like I can completely relate to this woman ;)

Having & spending money is fun; but it's so easy (for me) to go a little overboard.

The initial rush of a purchase only lasts a few minutes (or, maaaybee a few hours).

But....this weekend made me realize that time spent with family and good friends is worth so much more than any little item I think I "need".

What makes you (MUCH) happier than shopping??

tilt 9/2/10

things i love thursday

1- (almost) every night i come home from work to a super yummy dinner made by Rob. (i don't get home from work till 9:30 or later so he's in charge of dinner) :)

2- Squirrel's (my cat) nightly ritual of circling around the bed w/ her seahorse toy, making very strange meows/yelps.This must be done every night prior to cuddling up with us.

3- That im in my last semeseter of school & im pretty excited about all of my classes. I can not wait to (finally) receive my diploma. :)

4-My engagement ring, it's yellow gold w/ a pear shaped diamond; exactly what i wanted. I can't believe i haven't posted a picture of it on here yet; i will have to work on that!

5-That i had the best time @ an all day wine tasting trip with all of my girlfriends last saturday, for my friendly Melissa's bachleorette party! (no skeevy strippers for us; we have class! haha)

6- I finally started reading My Dog Tulip. Krystal @ Village made me want to read it, after posting the most hysterical video about it!

7-My future mother -in -law (yess i actually like my future M-I-L, she's super fun) & her Boyfriend are coming to visit this weekend. We have tons of fun things planned; A Yankee game, picnic & wandering around the city. I need to see all of the "sights" i've never seen (even though i've lived on long island for 26 years) before our big move!

8- Thinking about our big move & all the exciting furniture we are going to buy. Yup i'm sooooooooo excited about furniture. I'm also pretty darn excited about buying gain laundry detergent; it smells sooooooooo good!! hehe. You can think i'm weird; i don't mind :).

What are some of your favorite things this thursday?

Have a lovely Day; I hope the sun is shining where ever you are!

funny mutts wednesday

OOF!! hahaha